Beauty and the Beasts

This is my new client Daniela…I worked on her for 6 hours I did not finish her hair until 1:30 am last nite. She died her hair black with a box dye color. Box colors are the worse to get out of the hair. I understand why they have the box color memes….This was her first blonding session…I had to rebleach it 3 times…the black and red color she had did not want to come out. Please do not bleach your hair at home. You have to know what you are doing. I heard 6 hours of horror stories of Daniel’s life while I did her hair. I wish I would of recorded it. Her life has been a nightmare. She gave me the rights to blog about it and told me to share it here. I will try and keep it short ..Her mother is from Romania. I had no idea Romania was considered a third world country. Her mother was very poor they were lucky to sleep on pillows…Daniela’s father was a Mormon missionary the parents fell in love and he got Daniela’s mother pregnant…they move to the states and had 5 kids. The mother gets into a car accident killing two of her little ones. The father could never forgive her the mother and dumps her, the mother becomes a alcoholic and starts to verbally abuse Daniela (verbal abuse is more damaging than physical) Fast foward Daniela gets a scholarship and moves to California at 18 years of age from Washington but looses it all. When Daniela moved to California she was a beautiful blue yed barbie. She had no friends and innocently got involved with two new friends who introduced her to meth. She figured she could try it once and go on with her life. Nope. She got addicted and her life turned into darkness one of the friends turned nuts and rape her…she called her mother for help and her mother turned ice cold and told her she didn’t want to be bothered with her. Daniela was homeless at 18 living in cars getting beat by evil gangsters had her teeth knocked out..lost a baby from the beatings, she’s been jumped 4 times by fake female friends, she’s been in jail and sexually harassed by cops, she’s had her ribs broken. She told me she’s witnessed one gansgster possesed by demons after he shot up heroin. I believe it. She’s been spit on stabbed, choked, hit with guns. She’s only 29 but her face looks like shes 25 years older. You can see the hardness in her looks. She refused for me to show her face for this picture because of her missing teeth. She told me I was the first person in her life she’s ever told her life story to because people don’t listen. There is so much to her story but its too graphic for me to post. I don’t know when I will see her again. She can’t keep appointments she stood me up the first time and yesterday she showed up hours late. She is humble, generous, and witty. She’s a Beauty in a world of Beasts. I asked her what has she learned from her life experiences she said that evil exists, there is no loyalty and you have to learn to be little selfish because the more you give the more people will take advantage and use you. She’s not bitter she’s confident but she’s defitnely in a world of evil association. She’s driving around in a range rover. Her boyfriend pays for her rent even though he’s locked up somewhere in another state. I can only hope that one day she’s able to break the chain and leave the dirty women beater cholos behind. Any man that breaks a lady’s ribs is not a man but a demon possesed BEAST. A sissy if you ask me. Life is a journey from the choices we make….we all have the free will to make right and wrong choices…but if you get hooked on drugs it’s almost impossible to make a right choice. Out of everything she told me the most hurtful thing she told me how her parents disowned her at 18. They never looked for her, never cared that she was homeless, They even changed their phone numbers so she couldn’t contact them. You know what’s crazy about all of this Daniela’s mother owns her own hair salon in Ohio now with her new boyfriend. She abandoned all of the rest of her living kids when they turned 18 one of them being handicapped. Hairstylists are known for caring for people. How can you sit there and be kind and loving to your clients and treat your children so bad???? Don’t get me started on Daniela’s father he’s a longshoreman, her parents are getting paid boo hoo bucks $$$ why can’t they set her up take her to rehab?..Where is the natural affection? Where is the love? How can her mother call herself a human? Or a hairstylist? I’m glad she lives in Ohio that’s a woman I never want to meet. She abandoned her 18 year old handicap son to live alone in his car? What is wrong with people??!!! I don’t understand

women or men who throw away their kids for a new lover…

Ps) Daniela dyed her beautiful blond hair black because all her boyfriends cheated on her with black hair girls.😐

Tales of the chair stories. People confess more to me than they do their therapists or preachers…this is why I’m up till 3am…I’m a preacher a therapist and the coolest stylists your ever meetπŸ˜‰β€…..Hope she comes back I still need to finish my platinun blonding sessions on her.

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It’s going to be a better year for me πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

The audacityΒ 

Things are slowly changing for me as far as my codependent attitude of charging low prices. Folks want to come up in here like it’s the 70s and pay cheap prices. I quoted a regular client  $50 for her color roots, mind you color roots go anywhere from  $65-$100. I color her roots then she decides she wants me to cut her hair which I end up doing. Once I’m done coloring, cutting and styling I tell her it’s  $85…she blurted out “Oh! I thought you quoted me  $50!! …Do you honestly think you are going to pimp me again and not catch on that I just gave you hair cut!!…I walk her to the front door and notice her brand new Mercedes Benz!! She lives at home and doesn’t pay rent.  I’m livid at myself for letting folks get by with murder. I’m doing  $300 jobs for  $85?  No more.  I’m NOT only going to raise her prices I’m going stop making appointments for her. The welfare department is out of buisness starting 2018.

Visualization board

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I got this from the book the secret. Besides the book I’m a firm believer in the power behind words. I will get married again
I don’t know to who or when..I’m in no rush..been there done that..I’m not thirsty, I take care of myself, but when I do I want a modest classy dress like this and my hubby is going to sing (I wanna know) by JoeπŸ’•πŸ’• to me at the wedding or when we  are alone at our honey moon…I wanna know so I can be at all that and more…I like to know..I like to know what makes you cry.  Oh oh oh..thats the jam right there!!πŸ˜ŠπŸ’žπŸ’ž…starting another CD collection, my first collection got stolen from my jeep years ago from the car wash.
Oh well…it was worth like $300 not much but I can’t find some of the CDs πŸ˜•
I’m not paying more than 10 bucks on a CD again…gotta go..I must finish playing this jam and whine down from the day..oh oh…sing it Joe!!

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Adrenaline Junkie

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If I wasn’t a hairdresser I would be a race car drive or music DJ. I also took sociology in college after beauty college. I’ve always wanted to help people doing therapy but it seems way too draining..I drive like the Fast and Furious when I’m alone in the car ..I’ve inquiried about driving school but the nearest one was somewhere in Arizona. I’m a true adrenaline junkie always on some rush. high from coffee or every day life.I’m learning to sit and just be. It’s good a feeling as well..haha. Learning balance is an art. It’s like your on a tight ropeπŸ˜„πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜‚..

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Dysfunction

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Limit yourself to folks who are micro managing your weaknesses and exploiting your faults. Clients included. Money isn’t everything. Its not worth loosing your mind or getting sick with stress by them. Surround yourself with those that bring out the best in you. Avoid dysfunction as much as possible.

At the end of the day

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At the end of the day you have to sit down and realize that life is not just about chasing after the wind. More money more problems. There is a catch to it though. Money is good for the things you really need and your small vices. But working like a mule is not productive. Your health is at risk, you get moody and irritable, forgetful and physically sick. I’m so past due a vacation I ask my mom every day how many days I have left for my vacation. I don’t have any definite plans. I just want to not think about hair for 7 days. I don’t want to deal with complaints, last minute appts, a swollen knee, back aches old lady smelly perms, color burning my nostrils and caring clients asking me if I’m dating. I want to love myself and not worry about someone else. I want my week to be about me. I don’t want to deal with flaky folks, broke ones or drama. Know what I’m saying.

#burntout