Tales of the Chair

Hello this is my first day blogging on this site. I’ve always had dreams of publishing a book of my hairstyling experiences.. I live in Southern California.. And have been doing hair for about 26 years or more.. I was born with the scissors in my hands and love what I do. Enjoy my journal.


Verbal abuse

Verbal abuse is one of the most damaging abuse by far. The other day I was talking to my client who happens to be a therapist noticed that I started to scratch all over when I was confessing to her how I get anxiety when I’m about to pay a bill..and how I would drink a glass of wine when it came to figuring out my finances and writting checks. I told one other person years ago and they thought I was weird. My client told me I have PTS…something I knew all along …She would love to have me as a patient but she said she can’t because it’s unethical. I’m not angry or bitter at my past..since some have it worse than me. Years of being told that I was too stupid to manage my money manifested in my adult life…my story is NOT going to end like this. I will come up even if I do so crawling…I charged a client $300 on Monday for a color correction. It took me 6 hours and I’m still not finished with her.. (black box dye to blond) ๐Ÿ˜ฃ I’m learning to value my worth, my time and my hair experience. If this appointment came last year I would of charged the client $85 and I would of been resentful…and broke. It all starts with controlling one negative thought and ridding the thought out while forcing yourself to do something positive no matter how scared and anxious you are….I’m the product of a schizophrenic and bipolar mother…my mother is not at fault for her illness and I’m learning not to continue to be a victim no matter how anxious and shaky I get when I pay a bill.


Hello Summer๐Ÿน๐Ÿฆ„๐ŸŒด๐ŸŒผ…..When all else fails get your nails done you’d be surprised the difference it makes in appearance. People notice the simplest things especially if you are in the beauty business self care is a must. #yellowmellow

Beauty and the Beasts

This is my new client Daniela…I worked on her for 6 hours I did not finish her hair until 1:30 am last nite. She died her hair black with a box dye color. Box colors are the worse to get out of the hair. I understand why they have the box color memes….This was her first blonding session…I had to rebleach it 3 times…the black and red color she had did not want to come out. Please do not bleach your hair at home. You have to know what you are doing. I heard 6 hours of horror stories of Daniel’s life while I did her hair. I wish I would of recorded it. Her life has been a nightmare. She gave me the rights to blog about it and told me to share it here. I will try and keep it short ..Her mother is from Romania. I had no idea Romania was considered a third world country. Her mother was very poor they were lucky to sleep on pillows…Daniela’s father was a Mormon missionary the parents fell in love and he got Daniela’s mother pregnant…they move to the states and had 5 kids. The mother gets into a car accident killing two of her little ones. The father could never forgive her the mother and dumps her, the mother becomes a alcoholic and starts to verbally abuse Daniela (verbal abuse is more damaging than physical) Fast foward Daniela gets a scholarship and moves to California at 18 years of age from Washington but looses it all. When Daniela moved to California she was a beautiful blue yed barbie. She had no friends and innocently got involved with two new friends who introduced her to meth. She figured she could try it once and go on with her life. Nope. She got addicted and her life turned into darkness one of the friends turned nuts and rape her…she called her mother for help and her mother turned ice cold and told her she didn’t want to be bothered with her. Daniela was homeless at 18 living in cars getting beat by evil gangsters had her teeth knocked out..lost a baby from the beatings, she’s been jumped 4 times by fake female friends, she’s been in jail and sexually harassed by cops, she’s had her ribs broken. She told me she’s witnessed one gansgster possesed by demons after he shot up heroin. I believe it. She’s been spit on stabbed, choked, hit with guns. She’s only 29 but her face looks like shes 25 years older. You can see the hardness in her looks. She refused for me to show her face for this picture because of her missing teeth. She told me I was the first person in her life she’s ever told her life story to because people don’t listen. There is so much to her story but its too graphic for me to post. I don’t know when I will see her again. She can’t keep appointments she stood me up the first time and yesterday she showed up hours late. She is humble, generous, and witty. She’s a Beauty in a world of Beasts. I asked her what has she learned from her life experiences she said that evil exists, there is no loyalty and you have to learn to be little selfish because the more you give the more people will take advantage and use you. She’s not bitter she’s confident but she’s defitnely in a world of evil association. She’s driving around in a range rover. Her boyfriend pays for her rent even though he’s locked up somewhere in another state. I can only hope that one day she’s able to break the chain and leave the dirty women beater cholos behind. Any man that breaks a lady’s ribs is not a man but a demon possesed BEAST. A sissy if you ask me. Life is a journey from the choices we make….we all have the free will to make right and wrong choices…but if you get hooked on drugs it’s almost impossible to make a right choice. Out of everything she told me the most hurtful thing she told me how her parents disowned her at 18. They never looked for her, never cared that she was homeless, They even changed their phone numbers so she couldn’t contact them. You know what’s crazy about all of this Daniela’s mother owns her own hair salon in Ohio now with her new boyfriend. She abandoned all of the rest of her living kids when they turned 18 one of them being handicapped. Hairstylists are known for caring for people. How can you sit there and be kind and loving to your clients and treat your children so bad???? Don’t get me started on Daniela’s father he’s a longshoreman, her parents are getting paid boo hoo bucks $$$ why can’t they set her up take her to rehab?..Where is the natural affection? Where is the love? How can her mother call herself a human? Or a hairstylist? I’m glad she lives in Ohio that’s a woman I never want to meet. She abandoned her 18 year old handicap son to live alone in his car? What is wrong with people??!!! I don’t understand

women or men who throw away their kids for a new lover…

Ps) Daniela dyed her beautiful blond hair black because all her boyfriends cheated on her with black hair girls.๐Ÿ˜

Tales of the chair stories. People confess more to me than they do their therapists or preachers…this is why I’m up till 3am…I’m a preacher a therapist and the coolest stylists your ever meet๐Ÿ˜‰โค…..Hope she comes back I still need to finish my platinun blonding sessions on her.


My assistant is a very good organizer. She sets my tools like I’m about to do brain surgery ๐Ÿ˜€….Sorry I haven’t been around I am suffering burn out. Too many clients not enough time for me. I’ve been leaving the shop late going to bed at 3:30. Not healthy, not good.